Love Search
  


Καθρέφτισμα / Εγώ κι εσύThis spread can be very useful in times of loneliness and love search. Sometimes, we ignore the reasons why we are alone. We tend to blame our bad luck or the others for not approaching or for rejecting us. This spread can give some very insightful answers as to why we still haven't found our other half as well as useful suggestions for breaking the vicious circle of loneliness. 

Positions of the spread
 
Position 7:  The lesson
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Position 5: Where?
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Position 6: When?
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Position 3: What?
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Position4: Who?
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Position 1: Why?
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Position 2: How?
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The positions in this spread are the following:
Position 1: Why?; Why am I alone? What are the psycological or past factors that shape my present situation?
Position 2: How?  How can I handle these factors? 
Position 3: What?  What is necessary for me to do in order to solve this problem? 
Position 4: Who?  Who would be my ideal partner at this time of my life? What would be his / her characteristics? What do I really need now? What am I really looking for? 
Position 5: Where?  Where am I most likely to meet my new partner? 
Posiiton 6: When? When am I most likely to meet my new partner?
Position 7: The lesson.   What lesson do I need to learn through this period of loneliness? 


Sample Reading


Question: My last relationship ended two years ago. My relationships have been unsteady ever since. I just can't seem to find the right partner for me. I feel lonely and rejected. Am I just unlucky? Will I ever find the right person for me?  
 
Position 7: The lesson /Ten of Wands
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Position 5: Where?
Six of Cups
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Position 6: When? 
The High Priestess
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Position 3: What? 
Nine of Pentacles
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  Position 4: Who? 
The Star
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Position 1: Why?
Six of Swords Rx
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  Position 2: How?
Two of Pentacles
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Answer

The
first card which represents the reasons why you are alone is the Six of Swords reversed. This card shows that there has been a period of bad luck: every time you met someone you thought you could have a good relationship with, something happened and reversed this impression. Your hopes have been belied many times and it's only natural that you feel disappointed. But the Six of Swords raises some interesting questions: are you sure you expressed your personal needs and that you didn't compromise in your choice of partner? Have you tried to start or maintain a relationship with someone, just anyone, so as to feel less lonely? Have you been too picky or, on the contrary, too ignorant and uncaring for your own needs? Loving and feeling loved is the most precious and respected feeling in everybody's life but it has to come naturally. Take a minute to reflect whether you have pushed situations too hard. The Swords are also about communicating ideas and feelings. Perhaps you still haven't found the right way to express yourself to others. You may appear too rigid, too demanding or too crazy. Thinking of all these questions will help you realize why you' re so alone today.

The second card gives you advice on how to handle the answers you got from the first card. The Two of Pentacles here talks about balance. You need to strike a good balance of the time and energy you spend in all areas of your life: your job, family, friends, partner. They all need your attention and care. Don't fix yourself on one pursuit! Another piece of useful advice coming from the Two of Pentacles is to try to relax! Stop torturing yourself with thoughts of what you should have and enjoy what you already have! Don't stress yourself over thoughts of failure, loneliness, darkness. Try going out, socialising and enjoying the wonderful gift of life. Life cannot be a mere checklist.

The third card gives you some practical advice on tackling the problem. Here, the Nine of Pentacles encourages you to deal with your practical needs: your income, your house, your job. You also need to share the fruit of your achievements and have an open heart. Avoid bitterness and sorrow: if you feel that everybody else is happier that you, well, think again!

In the fourth positions which suggests who would be the right partner for you at this time of your life, there is a major arcana card, the Star. This cards indicates that what you mostly need is someone who will boost your optimism and hopefulness. You don't need a passionate, assertive, decisive person in your life right now. The right partner for you is someone cheerful, light-hearted, modest and sweet. He or she may not be the star of the club, but he / she is mild-tempered, good-humored and friendly. 

 

In the fifth position indicating where you are most likely to meet your next partner, the Six of Cups suggests that gatherings of old friends and family might be the right place. Accept invitations even if they sound boring: every association with people related to your past may prove surprisingly lucky for you. The same applies for activities, meetings or gatherings in places related with children: school plays, parents' meetings, volunteer work with children etc are highly recommended.  

The sixth position indicates when you are most likely to meet your new partner. Here, the High Priestess suggests that the right circumstances may take some time to develop. This is a card of immobility, passivity and inaction. Knowing this, you can take your time to organize your life and activities without anxiously anticipating Mr. / Miss Right to knock on your door any time soon. Don't worry about this. Timing is everything! Follow the advice you got from the other cards, go out, meet people, make new friends, see old friends and family, showing no distress or hurry.

Finally, in the seventh position indicating the lesson you need to learn from this period of loneliness, the Ten of Wands is telling you that you must stop regarding everything and everyone in you life as a burden. If your search for the right partner is filling your heart with sorrow, quit it. You' re not a crusader nor a victim. It may be a good idea to open your heart to people who share the same situation with you. Try to lighten up the situation using your natural sense of humor and direct your energy to positive things avoiding isolation. It might also be useful to take some time to think whether you have accepted other people's ideas about what is right or necessary in your life. Sometimes, the people in our environment (family, friends) may be very pressing over personal matters. It's important to keep your head cool and see things your own way.

 


 

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